tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post8367304113803773547..comments2023-11-02T04:58:40.054-07:00Comments on Don't Blink...: Call Me Crazy!Bridgethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12956456543868988997noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-53432062303614606712010-04-23T12:27:21.420-07:002010-04-23T12:27:21.420-07:00Dearest Sister in Our Lord,
I just stumbled up...Dearest Sister in Our Lord,<br /> I just stumbled upon your blog and felt the spirit moving me to comment on your post. First and foremost you are absolutely not crazy for your desire to have more children. Children are a blessing and His plans and timing are perfect. Always remember that.<br /> I wanted to share a little pearl of wisdom for all those contemplating sterilization from someone who has been on the other side. My husband and I married when we were both unsaved, I had been married before and had three children already. We promptly got pregnant and delivered our first child together, a daughter in 2001. Only five short months later I became pregnant again. We started attending a church and by His grace through faith I was saved. I was baptized in my forth month, what a blessing! We delivered our little boy in 2003 and my husband said we were done. I had some apprehensions but supported him anyway. On the way to the vasectomy appointment I asked the questions, “What if…” what if years from now we decide to have more, what if God forbid something happens to the blessing we have, what if our finances change and we can afford more (still had some of that wordly perspective), what if, what if, what if. His mind was made up, we were done and that was that. I supported him, although my heart cried out to stop him. <br /> Fast forward … the Lord has been working mightily in our home and my husband came to know the Lord in 2007. We had been learning more and more about the Lord and leaning on His word and not what the masses claimed was the way. At this time we were really struggling with the financial hit from the fall out of the housing market, and by faith moved from South Carolina to North Carolina, where we lived with my brother and his family (they have 5 children as well) until we could find a house of our own . Our hearts were softened and we began searching what the word had to say about children. We were broken when we found that we had cut off our God sent blessings. We had tampered with something that was not ours to mess with, and in turn cut off the God sent seed of His kingdom. <br /> We read and read of stories of those that had done the same and reversed their mistake, some with success and some without. Broken and confused we searched the web for ways to get help. Our money was tight but we knew we had to fix our mistake. We found a Doctor that specialized in vasectomy reversals and what do you know he was only an hour away in Burlington North Carolina (miracle #1), but the surgery was expensive and not covered under our insurance. By the work of God’s hands, shortly there after we received a little more than the amount needed (miracle #2). We called and promptly scheduled the appointment, we were on our way!<br /> Work dried up yet again and my husband could only find work in SC. Back we moved. We thought that surely we would become pregnant quickly; we had done so in the past. Ten long months later I became pregnant but miscarried at 8 weeks. We were devastated. That has been four months now and still we wait. Our hearts get heavy sometimes when we think of the lives we have cut off, how much fuller our table would have been at dinner time. We have not only affected our time but generations yet to come, many lives were stopped before they could even happen. It was our choice and with that came great consequences, much higher than either of us considered. <br /> We may never receive the blessing of another child, and though it grieves us deeply, it was of our own hand. We trust in the Lord implicitly and know that all things happen for the good of those who love Him. We leave our fertility to Him and trust in His ways. We feel blessed to have seen Gods hand in orchestrating our lives so that we could right our vasectomy mistake. And though not many can understand our heartache (they say we have enough children already), we pray that our experience may be a light to someone else’s feet. We pray that our story may prevent someone else from making the same big mistake. <br />Blessing,<br />VanessaVanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02005954337819878686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-286901528331797982010-04-06T06:49:42.499-07:002010-04-06T06:49:42.499-07:00Hi, my name is Jen and I have five children as wel...Hi, my name is Jen and I have five children as well. The funny thing in all of this, is that it is not anyones business. We have a lot of people who call us crazy, talk about us behind our backs and speak horrible words to us. I have come to a point where I tell people that it is between the Lord and my husband and I. I tell them the same if they ask my advice on whether THEY should have more children or not. That is all it is. Between a husband, his wife and the Lord.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-9673532156835935742010-03-31T20:53:26.553-07:002010-03-31T20:53:26.553-07:00Visiting from Lynnette's blog. You are not cr...Visiting from Lynnette's blog. You are not crazy, that is a family's personal choice and as long as they can provide for those kids.the Spockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226430548098226120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-79707640395653215372010-03-31T17:55:27.055-07:002010-03-31T17:55:27.055-07:00I can't sit here and read through all 71 comme...I can't sit here and read through all 71 comments - my 35 wks pregnant feet are too swollen, and I need to go prop them up! ;) <br /><br />Sweet Bridget, you are so NOT crazy. My Hubby and I call ourselves "quasi-Quiverful" ha! We know we want a houseful of arrows and blessings. Even now, being so huge with #3 (and #1 not even 4, and #2 not even 2 yet), I know that my heart is crying out for more babies. God certainly puts that desire in our hearts. <br /><br />Please let me share a sweet God-story with you. :) I have felt this way for a long time. It was really the Lord's tugging on my heart and the subsequent spiritual journey of prayer (and research) that led us to reject hormonal birth control as newlyweds. I have always felt that if we TRULY believe that God is the sole author and Creator of life, that no life is created outside of His hands...then why are we even trying to control or supercede the will of the One who made the whole universe?? LOL. I have long had a desire to allow the Lord to dictate our family size. We know people who've followed this path who have 10 children and counting. And we know people who've followed this path who have only 3 children, and the natural biological events of the mother's life have precluded any more babies. ;) <br /><br />Anyway, this has been my heart's cry for a long time. But Hubby wasn't quite as on board. "What about responsible stewardship?" was his biggest question, and frankly, it's a decent one. But one night when my son was a baby and in bed, Hubby walked into the living room with the laptop and turned the TV off. And very promptly looked up a Voddie Baucham sermon titled "The Centrality of the Home." The way he did it, I simply figured he had heard about it, read about it...something, and wanted us to watch it together. So we did. <br /><br />Oh man, it is a WONDERFUL sermon! Voddie talks about family size, home schooling, discipling your children - the whole 9 yards. (One thing he said that I thought of when I read your post about "what if all Christians became QF" is that Islam is out-breeding Christianity at an alarming rate, because so many Western churched families seem to think that 2 is the magic - or only - number.)<br /><br />Well, let me tell you girl: when that sermon ended, my Husband was just staring into space quietly for a few moments. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I have no idea why I looked up that particular sermon." <br /><br />He had not heard of the sermon. He knew nothing beforehand of the content. He had barely even heard of Voddie Baucham before. It was like he was propelled by the Hand of God to seek out that Truth about what the Lord says about children, parenting, and blessings!! <br /><br />We had a good, long talk that night, and we continue to revisit those themes again and again. It's amazing how God used that one night and sermon to plant a tremendous seed in my Hub's heart. <br /><br />We still wonder if we'll ever get to a point where we'll feel "done." And my biggest concern is that I am able to love, teach, disciple, and shepherd my children WELL. My goal isn't to have as many as I possibly can, but as many as I can possibly love and raise WELL. :) <br /><br />You're not crazy. Thanks for sharing your heart on this issue a second time!!Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02944994623159561187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-45268268794231508992010-03-31T15:30:35.033-07:002010-03-31T15:30:35.033-07:00Not crazy, but truly blessed! I believe that it is...Not crazy, but truly blessed! I believe that it is a calling and blessing from God to not only be a parent, but a stay home/homeschooling mother! And it is an even greater blessing to have multiple children! When you think of the difficulties to not only get pregnant, stay pregnant, and have a healthy baby wow what an amazing and awesome blessing God has given us! I agree a 100% with you and my husband and I often struggle with the same issues and the same comments, especially being a black family. I'm not sure if I will ever feel the feeling of I am done, but I want God to continue to bless me in every area of my life and if that means having more children then let the blessings continue to pour! He has blessed us to be able to afford them, that is all that matters!! You know you are living your life right when you have "haters" LOLTanyellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16503292535850683439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-90910816830108935092010-03-28T01:31:22.359-07:002010-03-28T01:31:22.359-07:00Hey "Little Sis" ... LOVE this post. I&...Hey "Little Sis" ... LOVE this post. I've been away from internet for 5 days, so am just catching up.<br /><br />I hadn't found your blog yet, when you posted this originally, so am glad that you re-posted.<br /><br />I've been pondering a guest post for you (sorry, life got CRAZY for a few weeks). Anyway ... I'll get one to you soon.<br /><br />Hugs!<br /><br />Laurel :)Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17253303288242135440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-50143489096267105842010-03-26T08:05:13.498-07:002010-03-26T08:05:13.498-07:00Hi Bridgit! This is a great post! I have 7 child...Hi Bridgit! This is a great post! I have 7 children ages 25, 21, 27, 13, 10, 5 and 17 months and I am 45 years old. All of our children were planned except number 1 and number 7. We have been reading in Jer. 29 about the Jews being in captivity in Babylon (kind of relates to where America is today....and God tells them to build houses, plant gardens and have children...even though things look bad in the culture. He commands them to increase and not decrease!! We are seriously considering another pregnancy (I have had 3 miscarriages). I will be 46 this year, but we are really feeling that the Lord is speaking to us to continue with childbearing. Crazy or not!!Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18443223419294735273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-83698812752781681152010-03-25T09:20:56.658-07:002010-03-25T09:20:56.658-07:00I came from Lynnete's blog--and great post. Gr...I came from Lynnete's blog--and great post. Great post.<br /><br />And I love your blog title. :)<br /><br />Love,<br />BekahBekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08863187635579987957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-90756774140462786172010-03-25T08:35:35.611-07:002010-03-25T08:35:35.611-07:00Hello From Kansas...
I am visiting from Lynnette ...Hello From Kansas...<br /><br />I am visiting from Lynnette Kraft's blog and I have to say that your blog is funny and refreshing! Love it!java girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04195562131030027861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-38780017481129873952010-03-25T06:36:23.043-07:002010-03-25T06:36:23.043-07:00Stopping over from Lynnette's Blog-"Danci...Stopping over from Lynnette's Blog-"Dancing Bare foot on Weathered Ground." So glad I did. You are not crazy and if fact I have 4 (two of each) and would have more if it wasn't for our ages. My husband is 8 years older than me and will turn 48 next year and thinks he is getting too old. I must admit since having two of mine after 35 it scares me a bit too-I don't live anywhere near family and worry if something happened and I had a premie or a child that needed special attention could I do it all? So I think we have to be done having ours-at least us having them-maybe adoption some day-God knows and I will wait for Him to let us know.<br />Your 5 are beautiful and so are you-I say if you are wanting more and God has given you that desire-go for it! We are so blessed by each of our kids-it makes me sad to think we are done. I had to laugh reading your blog cause my husband always says that-Jill one of them has to be the last one.<br />Praying for you-so glad I stopped by and can't wait to read more.<br />Blessing to you-would love for you to come over and join me as well @<br />http://pathwaytopurpose-jillaileenjones.blogspot.com<br />Have a super day.<br />Jill JonesAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02032814616544851463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-68091682079400837902010-03-25T03:37:57.105-07:002010-03-25T03:37:57.105-07:00Popping over from Lynnette's blog... so glad I...Popping over from Lynnette's blog... so glad I did.<br /><br />You are NOT crazy!! I have 2 children and would LOVE to have more. Unfortunately, it would be dangerous for me. So, we have decided to become foster parents.<br /><br />While I do not fully understand the quiver full concept, I do believe that each family has it's own quiver full number. Duggars currently have 19, you have 5 and I have 2. Just like an archer's quiver, it doesn't always have the same number of arrows.<br /><br />I believe that it is Satan who is causing the doubt you are feeling. If he confuses you enough, you'll wait on having any more children, therefore there would be 1 less Christian child in the world.<br /><br />Do what you think God is calling you to do, not what society thinks is the norm.<br /><br />Remember, we are not of THIS world.<br /><br />Many blessings,<br />Allison~*~ Allison ~*~https://www.blogger.com/profile/03349575970982423947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-82863218058508480302010-03-24T20:46:36.274-07:002010-03-24T20:46:36.274-07:00I get you totally!!! I have had all four c-sectio...I get you totally!!! I have had all four c-section and can not imagine ever not wanting another baby to hold. I also had that same kind of rude doc. Surgery scares me... missing out on a blessing scares me, too. Ironically, though... they do cut away the old scar tissue when they do the repeat c/s. Surgery is never safe.... I am considering breaking their rules and going VBAC, if we ever had another one.... my hubby wants more because he is so in love with the ones we have... crazy us.. so be it. I look at the Duggar's and find them inspiring. If we all had that many and raised them that well, then I think more power to us... the "crazy" people. We are not "crazy"... the rest of the world is for missing out on what we have! My hubby wanted a Vasectomy after our last.... I could not sign the papers knowing he might regret it one day. I told him he could sign my name, if he really wanted it and I would allow it. He did not do it. When Sahara turned one he started getting that twinkle in his eyes and I knew he was falling in love with that little one even more... and she was making him want another. Several months later he is wanting one.... actually, his words were 3 or 4 more. Yikes! Exciting... scarey ... all at the same time. The only thing that holds me back is the surgery part.... but really I would totally be on board for that 3 or 4 more! Ooops! I said it, too! You're a wonderful Momma! Have them... train them well.... raise up a generation of Christians!<br /><br />{This is on my blog}: Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed... Psalms 127:5 (Ashamed? How fitting that God would give us this Word for todays world where people act as if you are crazy for wanting more than two!)Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05682234408333714885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-83193866821365582212010-03-24T20:41:55.863-07:002010-03-24T20:41:55.863-07:00I am 23, not married, and because of this I have n...I am 23, not married, and because of this I have no children; however, if the day comes that the Lord see it fit to grant me a husband and (what I believe to be the biggest blessing) children - I hope to have as many as humanly possible.<br />It is hard work, it is expensive, and in the eyes of the world it is crazy to have a big family - but the world is ignorant.<br /><br />God is true, and every man is a liar. When God made Adam - He said that it was not good for him to be alone. He then gave the first commandment in the Scriptures: "Be fruitful and multiply - fill the earth"<br />Some of the happiest and most well-rounded people I know, are people who come from a big family. <br /><br />You are not crazy, you are godly. May YHWH bless you with more precious children. Thank you for the sweet post! <br /><br />P.S. I found you through Lynette's blog. Glad I read this.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323464570907231717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-46819290297839792792010-03-24T18:10:45.109-07:002010-03-24T18:10:45.109-07:00hmmm, I didn't see my post here, but wanted to...hmmm, I didn't see my post here, but wanted to say that I was popping on over from Dancing on Weathered Ground and I am so glad that I did. We have 4 kids, all planned! People always give us a look when they hear that we actually had to "try" for each baby. Love your blog and I follow! Kelly<br /><br />http://lovinglifeslittlemoments.blogspot.com/cooperkelly4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02849137566164878759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-80272605919037520372010-03-24T17:55:22.793-07:002010-03-24T17:55:22.793-07:00oops, forgot to say that I stopped by from Dancing...oops, forgot to say that I stopped by from Dancing on Weathered Ground and I am so glad I did! I follow now. =0) Kellycooperkelly4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02849137566164878759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-9970548171889290482010-03-24T17:51:25.564-07:002010-03-24T17:51:25.564-07:00So glad that Lynette is featuring you today. I lov...So glad that Lynette is featuring you today. I love your blog. I only have three children and it is such a hard decision to have more. I keep praying asking God to take the desire out of my heart or put the desire into my husband's heart.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13729746508094507948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-45592351883100742742010-03-24T17:51:25.565-07:002010-03-24T17:51:25.565-07:00I loved this! You are not crazy. I have four and ...I loved this! You are not crazy. I have four and we joke, "4 and no more." But that is because we know we are done (and feel that this is from the Lord) We tried for each baby. People just don't always think before they open their mouths.=0) Those babies are a gift from the Lord!cooperkelly4https://www.blogger.com/profile/02849137566164878759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-24987851168929260302010-03-24T17:41:06.369-07:002010-03-24T17:41:06.369-07:00I can completely understand. I too have a desire f...I can completely understand. I too have a desire for a large family. Although we will not be having any more biological children, we are in the process of adoption (our second). We will be bringing home our 4th or possibly 4th and 5th depending on what God has in store for our family. When we tell people what we are doing they always look at us like we are insane. They would really think I am nuts if I told them I would gladly do it over and over again. All through scripture Jesus tells us to care for the orphan and just like you are saying I get the most flack from my Christian brothers and sister. It really is sad. Regardless of what they think we press on. Because in the end this is between me and God, not me and man. If you believe that this is God's will for your life then it really does not matter what anyone else thinks. Children really are a blessing. It is just to bad that more people do not understand that.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04708667500345701318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-1975568170948399912010-03-24T17:25:46.465-07:002010-03-24T17:25:46.465-07:00you are not crazy!
i have 8 kids (long stories al...you are not crazy!<br /><br />i have 8 kids (long stories all so i won't ramble:D.<br /><br />i have discovered in my life that the "church" is the most cruel! they can be so hurtful..... good thing i KNOW the character of the God i serve! HE=LOVE!<br /><br />my husband is a designer and i'm trying reeeeeeally hard to get him to design a t-shirt that says "YES! I know how this happens, YES! We want them all, YES! I stay busy, YES! They all have the same father, and NO! It isn't any of your business:D"<br /><br />maybe if enough people feel the same way he'll actually do it. lolbellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13338099802954577987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-10499344765582009002010-03-24T16:08:00.744-07:002010-03-24T16:08:00.744-07:00LOL!!! Too funny... did you get my email?? I email...LOL!!! Too funny... did you get my email?? I emailed you regarding this post earlier today.. Glad you reposted it!Druhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05234698161320776573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-39187669514170906872010-03-24T15:50:40.452-07:002010-03-24T15:50:40.452-07:00I know some people down large families (Duggers, e...I know some people down large families (Duggers, etc..) but if they love their children and can afford to support them, who cares?<br /><br />I would get a second and maybe third opinion. If the other docs say it's ok, go for it!<br /><br />We're looking to hit the road soon-P/T at first, F/T eventually. <br /><br />Check out my blog:<br /><br />http://athomeonwheels.blogspot.com/Caroleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03113885824941940320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-18302704573487010942010-03-24T15:50:40.453-07:002010-03-24T15:50:40.453-07:00I am envious of your 'larger family' and w...I am envious of your 'larger family' and with only 3 kids have felt like you in how others view my family and my desire for more. I am praying for more children myself. They are a blessing. I did come from a large family, #1 of 13, plus a few cousins and friends my folks helped disciple or raise, however you want to look at it. I say let it all go and go after the goal that Christ has set before you. I am actually very selfish by nature, even as the oldest of 13+ kids. But when I got married, I knew I would have to make my own (along w/my husband) choice to trust God. It was easy to say and see God take care of us as we were growing up. Once it was my turn as a parent, I was actually scared of being a bad parent, didn't feel like a baby or kid type of person (even though I helped to raise my own siblings),etc....but then I had my first son! And fell in love and the more kids I have, the more I see what a treasure Jesus thinks of kids! He said let them come to Him, and so we are trusting Him! I've never heard of the QF, though that is what I believed growing up and now into my married years. I can't wait to see how many blessings I will have (and all I've learned and loved w/each one). Now, I am praying that God will do a miracle and my hubby will want more....my heart longs for more children. <br />I'm with you in that I got a lot of flack for my large family, still do, now that I have a whole whopping 3 kids (that is sarcasm as I am thankful for my kids, but don't think it's a 'large' family). <br />I am also visiting from Lynette's site.<br />I would just set aside what others think (though I know it's hard, especially when it's pastors or family giving you hard or terrible time - i had people say the worst things, but I learned that I had a wonderful family even if we were over populating the earth, j/k.)sothisislifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15792792950661591028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-12499409936925653362010-03-24T14:44:50.499-07:002010-03-24T14:44:50.499-07:00This is something that I have really been struggli...This is something that I have really been struggling with. I have two beautiful children. Karter (3) and Brody (1). 2 weeks after Brody was born, my husband was diagnosed with Leukemia. Tomorrow will be the one year anniversary of his first clear report. He is now Leukemia free (PRAISE GOD)... as long as he stays on his chemo pills. Well, as long as he's on his chemo pills, we are unable to have more children. <br /><br />This was almost harder for me to hear than when he was diagnosed. I know that seems rude, selfish and insensitive, but it's the truth.<br /><br />I love being pregnant and everything that goes along with it. I love being a mom. I want my little Brody to have a little brother or sister.<br /><br />I know there's always adoption, and I LOVE the thought of that. It's just hard to accept when it caught us so off guard! Also, adoption is a very expensive thing.<br /><br />Anyway, just know that you're not crazy. And if you are crazy, well, then know that you're not alone. <br /><br />(NOTE: I'm the youngest of 5 kids, and I wouldn't change that if I could. I love having my brothers and sisters!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05657003824067721661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-2968127453409515762010-03-24T14:43:04.563-07:002010-03-24T14:43:04.563-07:00Your post makes me want to cry. I just stopped ov...Your post makes me want to cry. I just stopped over from Lynette's site and I am soo glad I did!!! I have 4 children. The first 2 were such celebrations by friends and family alike, the next 2 people start to question your sanity, we are now on the brink of jumping into this all the way! We had booked the big V and backed out as well, when it just felt so wrong. Everyday I think about these ideas, right down to moving to Arkansas. :) I hate to admit the reasons that inhibit me are my fears, and the criticism. Yet the more I think on this (and even though my mother in law thinks I'm nuts already) I question myself on why on earth I would say no to God's blessing? Thank you for sharing! PamPamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6397026679704324535.post-61912554153336754142010-03-24T14:31:58.298-07:002010-03-24T14:31:58.298-07:00As one of eight I know the stares all too well. M...As one of eight I know the stares all too well. My Mom & Dad decided six was enough, and my Mom had her tubes tided. Well God had other plans, because shortly after my Mom found out she was pregnant with TWINS! My husband and I have two & we unfortunately DID attend our appointment. Sadly we did it because we didn't think we could afford more than two & now are hoping for a day when we can afford to adopt! Let God lead your heart girl!ragamuffinbeautieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13034671787377778170noreply@blogger.com